THE PROFESSOR CONFESSES An old professerof reveals his failures as a young therapist . Now he gives therapy tools to the public for helping their loved ones.
his failures to give the public hidden tools for doing therapy at home his falures as a researcher responsible for making findings available to larger the public... ..his failures, his arrogance as a young therapist
TESTING draft for making a blog
THIS IS A TEST
THERAPY'S TRADE SECRETS
Microlessons for professor confesses
A Professor’s Confession: [The Golden Presence problem for immature therapists]
Pretending to be Genuine [pretending you’re not pretending, as a lifestyle]
The Therapist’s Self-concept as a GOLDEN PRESENCE, a superordinate, a superior guru, an advice-giver, an expert, as flawless, supercilious, lofty, immodest
A real reflection between mother and toddler.
Survival of the Fittest – isn’t about physical fitness – Darwin discusses fitness as a capacity to collaborate, to do, at least commensalism, to be sociable. Lately, academics think of friendly connection genes.
Example of a MIGHTY MINUTE for starting a conversation with Kara and Camille--with Assem joining us from KZ next month--maybe.
I iNTRODUCING HUMANISTIC THERAPY IN FIFTY-SEVEN SECONDS
Draft: It's an approach to human development, that has revolutionized psychotherapy, classroom teaching, and close relationships around the world. It rose to prominence as a scientific response to the limitations of psychoanalysis and behavioristic therapies. This humanistic way of thinking starts with our hard-wired drive towards self-actualization, a construct of human development. It emphasizes our psychological predisposition to develop into mature, fully functioning humans. It assumes our failures to grow up are frequently from failing to make durable intimate relationships. Research reveals that those capable of maintaining close relationships supported by close conversations will, live with less mental illness, fewer medical problems, stronger self-esteem, and less loneliness. They live significantly longer.[?link to MMs on the Berkeley and Harvard Lifetime studies here?]
Learning to really participate in a close relationship is learning to give uncommon emotional honesty, accepting personal differences, and expressing understanding. Those three conditions create the durable intimacy seen in healthy relationships in some families, friendships, and loving couples – . Intimacy goes beyond sex into all aspects of healthy connecting.
. It’s an interpersonal instinct in our brain’s ancient history. But, owning an instinct and acting on it are different things. Successful intimacy is not the rule, but the exception in modern life. That’s where humanistic psychotherapy comes into the picture it’s easy to think of the three conditions as H.A.E, or honesty, acceptance, and empathy. The urge to give and get HAE is part e. University research shows it’s particularly effective in helping people wake up their humanity for acting on the intimacy instinct.